- Eat while you are eating
- Study when you are studying
- Watch TV while you are watching TV
- Cook when you are cooking
- Say what you are feeling (you don’t get coolness points for not saying what you should be saying, and are thinking, and are feeling so intensely)
- When you are on the phone, listen to what the other person is saying and respond to it
- If you can’t help someone, say you can’t help them
- If you feel like staying in, stay in
- Tasks that take less than ten minutes, start and finish immediately. This includes random shit that bugs you, which you can just clarify (“Did I annoy you too much that day?” “Was that insensitive?”)
- Text when you are texting, but probably not when you are studying, eating, talking, on the phone or in the middle of an urgent task
- Ask for what you want
- Accept that people will put themselves first, because they are protecting their interests and their heart
- Put yourself (and your friends and family and anyone who contributes to your well-being) first
If you are thinking “well, duh” and “this is intuitive” – great. Oftentimes though, it should be obvious but it isn’t.
From: The girl who eats while she studies, lets the pot boil over when she’s worrying about a term paper due in 24 hours, texts when she reads and reads as she texts, says something and means something else as she’s scared she’ll lose coolness points
